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Was it hard giving up the baby?

Updated: Jun 22

This is the #1 question I am asked when people find out I was a surrogate mom, AKA "gestational Carrier"


How can I give up someone who doesn't belong to me? See, some people are confused with how IVF works. They don't understand the process. They might assume it was my egg. They might not know that a tiny embryo was created in a lab (without me involved) and then inserted into the lining of my uterus at the precise time when my uterin lining was JUST RIGHT. Some people do understand its "not my baby" but they assume that the surrogate will be attached and want to keep the child.


The best way I can describe how it felt is to ask if they have ever babysat their friends child. Are you upset when your friend comes and picks up their child? Nope. You might even be a little relieved that mommy is here and you can now relax. For me, it was like that. I loved the tiny miracles inside of my belly. But I had no desire to raise them. I looked forward to the day her mother and father would meet her and take her home with them. It gave me great joy to imagine how happy their family would be together. Growing a healthy baby was the best gift I have ever given.



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